Autism and Dance

Autism and Dance

When he dances, he feels free. His mind stops spinning as his feet leave the ground. He leaps, he flies and his world and our world becomes one for a brief moment in time. Autism and dance is something I had never given much thought. Why would I? My son wasn’t able to jump when he was three. He physically could not pick up both …

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Autism and Breaking Up

Autism and Breaking Up

Autism and Breaking up I have broken up with my son’s therapists, schools, and recently an organization.  Why?  Because all relationships run their course and when they’re no longer working, they need to end.  It’s the same with romantic relationships.  Once the love is gone, or has shifted, we often hold on for too long.  It can be detrimental to yourself or your child when …

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Autistic Teenagers and All The Feels…

autistic teenager and Love

Autistic Teenagers and Love When your toddler is diagnosed with autism, you don’t know what to expect.  You don’t know which milestones will be met, if they will be verbal or non-verbal, or what the future holds.  Nobody knows, autistic or not. As an infant, my son with autism hated to be touched, cuddled or kissed.  But mountains of OT and a sensory processing diagnosis …

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Help Your Teenager By Being A Bad Mom

I’m A Bad Mom I let my son blame things on me. He can tell his friends at any time that I’m “making him come home.” If he’s out at a party, or get together, and becomes sensory overloaded or is having extreme anxiety, he can use me to save face with his friends.  Basically, he uses me to excuse himself from the situation.   I’m …

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Autism Moms and Sleep

Autism Moms and Sleep

Autism Moms and Sleep (Or Lack There Of) Where my girls at?  Or shall I say fellow zombies?  Ever feel like you haven’t slept in over a decade?  That’s me. Autism Moms and sleep are two words that don’t often go together. My teenager on the autism spectrum rarely sleeps, so therefore neither do I.  And he sleepwalks…which scares me to death (we have stairs …

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Cell Phones and Special Needs Teenagers

Cell Phones and Special Needs Teenagers

Cell Phones and Special Needs Teenagers Teenagers are on social media.  All of them!  Add in developmental or cognitive challenges and social media becomes far more complex. It’s up to the parents to help these kids navigate through this entire world that is inside their phones.  Yes, it seems like an invasion of privacy, but honestly, their safety should come first. Teenagers and Social Media My …

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Transitioning to High School

autism high school

We did it!!!  We officially have a teenager on the autism spectrum successfully enrolled in High School.  As an autism mom, I know that school transitions are tough, and I was particularly concerned about transitioning to High School. What did we find helpful for transitioning to High School?  Let me tell you know.  Prepare, prepare, prepare.  Summer School – we opted for summer school to …

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Making School Drop Off A Breeze

School Drop Off

By now you’ve settled into your school morning routine.  How’s it going for ya? Do you need some adjustments? Here are some ideas to make your morning run smoothly. Or as smoothly as possible. We are all only human after all. Prepare the night before Everyone suggests this, but are you doing it? If not, I get it. Some nights I just don’t have the …

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13 Lessons I’ve Learned As An Advocate Mom

Advocate Mom Lessons

Not many are prepared to be an advocate for their children, but when the day arrives, you can’t help but learn a lot about yourself as a person. Since I’ve been an advocate for almost 14 years, I wanted to share my experience with those of you who may just be starting your advocating journey. Most of all, trust yourself and know that you can …

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The Jeffersons Taught My Son with Autism Social Skills

Social Skills The Jeffersons

He responded to George’s outlandish behavior and was able to understand his exaggerated body language and facial cues. It all clicked when he watched his favorite show, The Jeffersons. When my son was in fourth grade, I purchased social skills DVDs and had been trying to teach him to read peoples’ body language, gestures, and social cues. He found the animated videos to be boring …

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My Autistic Son and I (As Apple and Tree)

My Autistic Son and I

When my son was young I went to an autism conference, the speaker said during their presentation, “Autistic kids don’t fall far from the tree,” and everyone in the room clapped and agreed with him.  Last week, I was reading an article that again read, “Autistic children do not fall far from the tree,” meaning they take after their parents. And when I saw the …

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Taking the EGO Out of the IEP

IEP Meeting

With a teenage child in middle school, I’ve attended my share of IEP meetings. It’s an evolutionary process that you become more comfortable with in time, maybe because I’ve been in the same school district and know what to expect.  I also know the laws and both my rights as a parent and my child’s rights as a student. IEPs are emotional. As parents we …

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When Our School District Said No Inclusion, We Moved

Inclusion Matters

He refused clothes, except a pair of striped socks, and was non-verbal at 3 years old, when we first entered the school system. Barking, like our family dog, was his form of communication, as he hid under the nearest table. Needless to say, our school district intake meeting did not go well. My son refused to participate in their tests, but he did play with …

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Using Humor To Cope with New

Using Humor To Cope

New can be a four letter word when your child has autism or sensory processing issues, or maybe is just shy or an introvert.  New classes, new school, new therapist, new friends, new foods.  New.  New.  New.  Everyday there is something new thrown at our kids, and unless it’s a new object of desire (like a gadget or a pet), then NEW is not welcomed …

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Why You Want A New Hobby for your ASD Kiddo This Summer

Autism Summer Hobby

I recently read that new hobbies of dyslexic children can point to careers, and so as a mom, I assume the same for my child on the autism spectrum.  Why wouldn’t a hobby grow into something as fabulous as a career?  That chess obsession teaches strategy, which could blossom into forensic detective aspirations, or all that Lego Star Wars movie making could turn him into …

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We Hated Our Teacher This Year…And It Was Awesome!

We Hated Our Teacher This Year and It Was Awesome

We’ve been blessed with amazing teachers who have absolutely adored my son, in fact, we’ve been beyond lucky with our school district in general.  We moved to this particular district for the amazing schools, and our teachers have been off-the-charts fabulous.  But last year I started to question if my son was actually earning his grades, or just had the teacher wrapped around his cute …

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You Can Be A Social Detective App Review

YOU CAN BE A SOCIAL DETECTIVE App by Social Thinking *Please note:  I do not have companion book or CD, which would be great for reinforcement.  This app is the 1st level of the You Are A Social Detective CD. SET UP: I downloaded the You Can be A Social Detective App to my Iphone5S from the iTunes Store.   After the introduction, you’re asked to …

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When YouTube Celebrities Become Your ASD Kiddos Friends

Internet Kids Never Sleep

I’m aware that no two teenagers with autism are the same, but there are some familiar themes, just like with anyone else.  And since autism is so completely fascinating in itself, I’m always amazed when I learn yet another nuance. One thing we’ve always worked on is reality vs. not reality.  For example, my son used to think SpongeBob was real. Obviously, he was young, …

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7 Rules When An Autism Obsession Is A Safety Hazard

Autism Obsession safety hazard

Most of our little ones on the autism spectrum have obsessions, or as I like to call them speed bumps. Why? Because in the moment, they can’t get past them.  Some people prefer to use the terms interests or passions.  I’m fine with any of the terms, as I don’t find obsessions to be a bad thing.  Sometimes they’re fabulous and can help a child …

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